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Measuring A Year: Sticking to the Plan (Kinda)

This week, I'm taking you with me as I "measure my year." I'm also sharing some of the selfies I've taken during the pandemic. I guess it's been a little side project I started without really meaning to . . . kind of to measure my mood. I'm not sure exactly why or when I started taking these pandemic self-portraits (because I'm normally not a selfie-taker at all), but I did. And now there's quite a collection, and they DO tell a story of my pandemic moods.(Also hair growth, as it turns out.)

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As I mentioned yesterday, I always begin my "annual review" by taking a look at the intentions I set for myself at the beginning of the year. I don't set resolutions or specific "goals" for myself. I set . . . intentions. They're very open-ended, generally. And they reflect the direction I want to head off in for the new year; they way I want to live my life.

One year (2018, I think), I tried Gretchen Rubin's "XX for 20XX" concept, and set myself up with 18 (I think) very specific things I wanted to do that year. I hated it. Hated. It. I know a lot of people just love that concept - and look forward to putting their lists together every year. It's not for me, though. I'm much better with annual, wide-open intentions. 

Anyway. Here are the intentions I set for myself back in January 2020:

  • be healthy and get strong
  • practice the things I love
  • pay attention to the moon
  • be kind
  • let love flow
  • focus on flexibility and stretching
  • keep my eyes open
  • be mindful of the world I live in
  • show up
  • make space

Even though they are very . . . non-specific . . . there is always some kind of meaning behind each intention; a reason I made it an intention in the first place! "Be healthy and get strong," for example, was all about my commitment to fitness and continuing my work with Jeremy, my personal trainer. "Be mindful of the world I live in" was related to my wanting to learn more about the environment and how I might change my own "footprint" on the earth. "Focus on flexibility and stretching" was, in part (although not exclusively), a reminder for me to try and find a new yoga studio. "Show up" was all about being more present for the people I love and care about, and to remind myself to speak out when I could about things that matter to me.

So these intentions were designed . . . for 2020 as I assumed it would unfold.

And then, of course . . . it didn't.

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I didn't look at my intentions for several months. I was too busy . . . adjusting to this new reality of pandemic life. But eventually, once I realized and accepted that it was a longer-term situation we had here, I did a quick review. I was pleasantly surprised to find that I didn't really need to make any drastic changes; that most of my intentions were wide-open enough that I could just tweak them here and there, maybe add a few things, and still move forward. So late last summer, I made some revisions to my intentions . . . to reflect my new and unexpected pandemic lifestyle:

  • be healthy and get stay strong ("healthy" took on a whole new meaning for me, and Jeremy is long gone. . . )
  • remove the barriers that keep me from practicing the things I love (mostly . . . put down the phone, step away from news, and Get To It)
  • pay attention to the moon and find new rhythms for living your life
  • be kind from behind a mask
  • let love flow with loving-kindness meditations
  • focus on flexibility and stretching by saying "hello" to your new friend Adriene 
  • keep my eyes open by staying informed by reputable, knowledgeable sources
  • be mindful of the world I live in while still allowing myself time to grieve and heal
  • show up by supporting my family and friends 
  • make shift your space to make room for pandemic life at home (now that "home" is also gym, movie theater, restaurant, brew pub, art class, etc.)

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I also added a few new intentions:

  • be gentle with myself
  • look for the next right thing . . . and do that
  • connect with local friends as if they were far-away friends (because they kinda are far-away friends now)
  • find new ways to celebrate special days and events 
  • get out my pom-poms and be a cheerleader whenever possible

2020 threw me for a loop, that's for sure. 
Things look a lot different than I anticipated they would back in January.
But when it comes to living my life, I've stuck to my intentions.
(kinda)
I call that a Win!

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Carole

As someone you showed up for over and over again I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart. You got me out of bad situations more than once, taught me to look at moving my body in a whole new way, and encouraged me over and over to trust myself. If you want to measure your 2020 goals in terms of what you did for others, well, you can certainly call it a WIN.

Dee

I think you have definitely had some very good wins!

Bonny

You've got an interesting take on this! I've been grumbling about 2020 being completely disrupted, but with your revised intentions you've shown me that it really wasn't as disruptive as I've been making it out to be. Yes, it was deadly, horrible, and oh so awful in a myriad of ways, but we could still find ways to adjust, carry on, and live with intention. That's a Big Win, and so are the selfies!

Vera

I really like the way you are looking at things Kym and the selfies are wonderful!!! As I've said before, silver linings are everywhere...it's just that sometimes you have to hunt them down. Looks like you have done that.

Kat

These are excellent reminders for any year, but especially this year! I am glad for how much you made me think here on your blog.... I am profoundly grateful for that! (and those selfies! lol LOVE THEM!)

Jane

I'd say you had a win too. And the parade of hair-do, I wish I'd thought to take a few selfies this past year just to record the choose your own hair adventure. After awhile I'd get up in the morning and think, what is it going to look like today?

Chloe

Call me shallow, but what I noticed straightaway was that gorgeous sweater, your great plaid shirt and those wild blue frames. And how you are “handling” (psychologically) your hair. Like Jane I wake up each day wondering what mine is going to look like. Kinda like the entertainment of the morning.

Sarah

You have such a great attitude, Kym, and I really admire your flexibility in adapting your intentions to fit with the new reality!

Patty

Love seeing that face! (And that sweater!) You guide us well my friend...you make our world a better place each and every day. xoxo

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