Now, More Than Ever
Out and About on a Wednesday

The Ebb Part of It

On the last Tuesday of the month, many of us in Bloglandia share updates about our "words" for the year. (Honoré hosts, check it out.) It's a really helpful way to reflect back on the month-nearly-ended . . . to see how our "words" have popped up in our worlds. It's especially fascinating to me to see how these words connect - all year - for so many of us. There is some mysterious power in having a word, that's for sure.



"We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of time and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible in life, as in love, is in growth, in fluidity -- in freedom."
        --- Anne Morrow Lindbergh


When I started this year, I was very eager to . . . flow. To move forward -- swiftly, rapidly, with purpose -- even if I didn't exactly know what that meant, or where I'd end up. It was exciting -- and I was ready to dive in. I wasn't really thinking about barriers that might keep me from flowing. Much. I mean, I knew I'd meet up with them, sure (because life). But I was planning to, y'know . . .  figure out ways to flow around them; to keep moving despite any barriers. And although I did jot down the phrase "ebb and flow" in my journal when I was first exploring my word back in January, I didn't give it much thought. I was all about the flowing this year; not so much the ebbing.

But. Thanks to the pandemic, that ebbing thing? Much bigger than anticipated!

And, oh how I've been fighting the ebb!
(Because, really. Who wants to ebb, huh? I just want to flow. To go! To move forward. To make change and get on with things and grab what's ahead.) 

The pandemic has (unfortunately) gone on for long enough now that I'm getting to a place where I can see some personal growth happening. I'm realizing that I actually need the ebb now and again. That pulling back once in a while . . . is a good thing. Time for sitting in the quiet, dark spaces. Waiting. 

I think I resisted so much for so long because, to me, ebbing meant being stuck. (Because I sure felt stuck!) But now, I'm thinking that ebbing . . . is part of flowing.

Yin and yang.
Push and pull.
Lost and found.
Give and take.
Sweet and sour.
Light and dark.

Ebb and flow.

It's been an ebb-time, for sure (much like I experienced during my cancer cycle years ago). Lots of time in the weeds. Plenty of time to reflect and think about what it means. I'm finding resilience, strength, and reserves I'd forgotten I had. Things I never could have imagined back in January.

I still want to flow.
But I'm seeing the benefits from the ebbing, too.

Now, I'm finding that Anne Morrow Lindbergh's words (above) ring true: "the only continuity possible in life . . . is in growth and fluidity. . . "

With some ebbing thrown in for good measure!


How about you? What did you learn from your word this month?



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Silver Linings!


I think you need the ebb to appreciate the flow. They work together and I'm glad you are seeing that and making peace with it now.


Balance right? Sometimes it's pretty hard but generally right in the end!


It seems like you have found the best way possible to deal with the ebb of all of this! Good for you!


Another piece of inspiration from you!


Intentional was my word for the year. Some days I do really well. Other days ........I don't even THINK of the word.

I mostly remember words from my dad .................This too shall pass.


Yes, yes, yes. You know, I seriously doubted whether or not to publish my One Word post this month--because it felt so, well, like such a downer. But after I did, I took a deep breath, and I thought That's Real Life. The way you put it today really hits that spot. That the grab bag isn't ALL goodies. And that even the duds we draw are part of the big picture. (How poetic was that?) Here's to the '&" in ebb & flow. xo


I think the reason we see so many pairings like those you've named is that you really can't have one in the absence of the other; without the ebb, we can't really see or appreciate the flow. And I seem to remember you reflecting early on in this year that flow doesn't meant avoiding the barriers that come up but working around them. Learning to do that, to "go with the flow," takes practice, and it's a given, as far as I'm concerned, that there will be steps back as there are steps forward. Especially this year!


I love this post, so beautifully written from the heart. Thank you so much for sharing it with us. We do sometimes need the ups and downs, the ebb and flow of life, although it is always hard to be in the downs and the ebbs it helps us to value the flow and up so much more doesn't it?


I've been thinking a lot lately about light and dark. and trying to welcome both because they really do make each other better. your post does a nice job of explaining that - must admit, though, I'm gonna be really ready for some light (and for you, some flow) ... soon, right?!

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