Okay. In describing my husband, Tom, I'd use words like . . . adventurous, curious, adaptable, fun-loving, and open.
I'd also use words like . . . smart, thoughtful, prudent, reasonable, and steady.
(He's a good guy, all around.)
He doesn't make knee-jerk decisions. He considers options and thinks through scenarios. He does his homework. He takes his time. But once he decides, well . . . he decides! (If you are familiar with Gretchen Rubin's Four Tendencies, Tom is the ultimate Questioner. With a capital Q.)
When we're going to make Major Decision (buying a new car, for example, or booking a cruise to Alaska), we talk about it and think about it and "look into it" and generally let the decision simmer for awhile. Usually we know that - ultimately we'll do . . whatever . . . but we want to make sure. Think it over some more. Weigh things out. Agonize. Feel GOOD about our decision. (Because I'm a Questioner, too, you see.)
So. See if this discussion fits the profile. . .
(Scene: Brushing teeth together on the evening of New Year's Day.)
Tom: I think we should go to Italy.
(Scene: Next day, over lunch.)
Kym: I found a couple of trip options for Italy.
Tom: Let's see them.
(Scene: Minutes later, staring at laptop.)
Tom: I like that one.
Kym: Me, too.
Tom: Book it.
Kym: (stunned silence)
(I know, right???)
We're off to Italy next September. And we didn't agonize over it for a month before deciding to do it! (So unlike us.) When I mentioned to Tom at dinner time that I still couldn't believe we had done that, he looked at me with the biggest of his big Tom-grins and said . . .
"This is 2020 Tom!"
(I think I may need a safety helmet.)
Have a great weekend, and I'll see you on Monday!