Today is a Big Day.
Yeah. It is our Winter Solstice Party. But that's not why it's Big Day.
It's a Big Day . . . because it's Tom's birthday. His 60th birthday!
It's hard for me to really grasp that we're celebrating his 60th birthday today. Not because he's "that old" . . . but because I can remember celebrating his first birthday together-as-a-couple so clearly. As if it were . . . just yesterday.
December 20, 1979. Tom was my boyfriend, then -- a senior in college at Boise State University. I picked him up at the old Denver Stapleton airport when he flew home for Christmas break. I gave him a gigantic crocheted afghan that I had lovingly stitched throughout the semester . . . in the parking lot at the airport . . . with irritated drivers who wanted our parking spot as our audience.
That was the first of many birthdays we celebrated together.
40 birthdays together, actually.
Pretty much. . . 2/3 of our lives.
Amazing, isn't it?
So many birthdays. So many memories.
As we go about our day today, working together to throw our big Solstice-Not-a-Birthday-Party (although I did get him a birthday crown to wear - and a flashing "60" button to wear), we'll also be kicking off the biggest Birthday Extravaganza in our history together. (Well. So far.)
And because today is a Thursday, I thought I'd share three Tom-isms with you - in honor of his birthday. Three things about Tom and his general approach to life that have made the biggest impact on me and my own general approach to life:
1 - If you're going to commit to something, go all in. Tom is always much more . . . considered . . . about what he commits to doing than I tend to be. He doesn't take commitments lightly. He always does what he says he's going to do. He doesn't look for excuses. He doesn't want to be let off the hook. He also doesn't over-commit. After 40 years, I'm still trying to follow his example.
2 - Function over form. Every time. Tuck your pantlegs into your socks (in public) to keep the ticks out? No problem! Create an eyesore in the back of your car by carrying every piece of gear you might ever need at all times? Why not! Wear a ratty old pair of shorts (in all seasons) with multiple layers of shirts and vests because you're cold in the winter? Works for him! (Stay back, girls! He's All Mine!!!) (Just sayin.) Seriously, though . . . after all these years, some of his function-over-form lifestyle is finally rubbing off on form-over-function me.
3 - When it comes to deciding whether or not you should head to the gym for a workout, the answer is always, ALWAYS YES. Whenever I feel too [fill-in-the-blank: tired, sore, sick, busy, unsettled . . . etc.] to go to the gym, Tom always gives me That Look. Then he says (in a But-It's-YOUR-Decision kind of tone), "I usually find that a workout helps." And he's right. It does. (And I am the fitter because of him.)
Happy Birthday, Tom!
(Let's get this party started!)
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