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Three Tom-isms: A Special Birthday Post

Today is a Big Day.

Yeah.  It is our Winter Solstice Party.  But that's not why it's Big Day.

It's a Big Day . . . because it's Tom's birthday.  His 60th birthday!

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It's hard for me to really grasp that we're celebrating his 60th birthday today.  Not because he's "that old" . . . but because I can remember celebrating his first birthday together-as-a-couple so clearly.  As if it were . . . just yesterday.  

December 20, 1979.  Tom was my boyfriend, then -- a senior in college at Boise State University.  I picked him up at the old Denver Stapleton airport when he flew home for Christmas break.  I gave him a gigantic crocheted afghan that I had lovingly stitched throughout the semester . . . in the parking lot at the airport . . . with irritated drivers who wanted our parking spot as our audience.

That was the first of many birthdays we celebrated together.  
40 birthdays together, actually.
40!  
Pretty much. . . 2/3 of our lives.

Amazing, isn't it?

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So many birthdays.  So many memories.  

As we go about our day today, working together to throw our big Solstice-Not-a-Birthday-Party (although I did get him a birthday crown to wear - and a flashing "60" button to wear), we'll also be kicking off the biggest Birthday Extravaganza in our history together.  (Well.  So far.)  

It's going to be a great year!

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And because today is a Thursday, I thought I'd share three Tom-isms with you - in honor of his birthday.  Three things about Tom and his general approach to life that have made the biggest impact on me and my own general approach to life:

1 - If you're going to commit to something, go all in.  Tom is always much more . . . considered . . . about what he commits to doing than I tend to be.  He doesn't take commitments lightly.  He always does what he says he's going to do.  He doesn't look for excuses.  He doesn't want to be let off the hook.  He also doesn't over-commit.  After 40 years, I'm still trying to follow his example.

2 - Function over form.  Every time.  Tuck your pantlegs into your socks (in public) to keep the ticks out?  No problem!  Create an eyesore in the back of your car by carrying every piece of gear you might ever need at all times?  Why not!  Wear a ratty old pair of shorts (in all seasons) with multiple layers of shirts and vests because you're cold in the winter?  Works for him!  (Stay back, girls!  He's All Mine!!!)  (Just sayin.)  Seriously, though . . . after all these years, some of his function-over-form lifestyle is finally rubbing off on form-over-function me.

3 - When it comes to deciding whether or not you should head to the gym for a workout, the answer is always, ALWAYS YES.  Whenever I feel too [fill-in-the-blank:  tired, sore, sick, busy, unsettled . . . etc.] to go to the gym, Tom always gives me That Look.  Then he says (in a But-It's-YOUR-Decision kind of tone), "I usually find that a workout helps."  And he's right.  It does.  (And I am the fitter because of him.)

So.

Happy Birthday, Tom!

(Let's get this party started!)

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Patty

Happy Happy Birthday Tom! It IS going to be a great year! And all the way yes to #3 in my house too. I'm fitter b/c of Doug. Thank-you fine gentlemen!

Bonny

Happy Birthday, Tom, as you begin a wonderful and adventurous year! I've tried to convince John on the importance of #1 and #2, but both of us fall down on #3. Too bad that one of us isn't more like Tom!

Vera

Happy Birthday Tom and Happy Solstice! Have a great party!!

Debbie

Happy Birthday wishes to Tom! I hope you have a wonderful time at your party!

Cheryl S.

Happy Birthday Tom! (I need a workout enabler like that!)

kim in oregon

Happy Birthday Tom! I just turned 60 in April and---all is well. 60 is the new 20!

Carole

I feel so fortunate to count Tom among my friends. He's fun and wise and so very kind. Happy 60th birthday, Tom! I can't wait to watch how this year unfolds for both of you! (And secretly hoping Dale and I get to be a part of it in some way)

Bridget

Happy Birthday to Tom, and many more!

P.S. You two are babies ... ;-)

Pam

Happy birthday to Tom -- Congratulations to you both! Have a great party and a wonderful 60th year celebration!

gwenda

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TOM FROM BRITISH COLUMBIA CANADA

TODAY IS MY HUSBAND, ADRIAN'S 60TH BIRTHDAY
THIS TOO IS THE 40TH BIRTHDAY I GET TO CELEBRATE WITH HIM.
CELEBRATE YOUR DAY - ENJOY.

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kathy b

Happy Birthday to your guy. Time flies! We are blessed to have our guys and grow up with them!!!

Dee

Happy 60th , Tom!

P.S. Can I borrow him for the GYM part? I really need to get back there. I'm sure a little Tom-push would do it!

Hope you have a GREAT party and that Tom has a great new decade!

Kat

Happy Birthday, Tom! May this be the best year yet!!

And, Happy Solstice to BOTH OF YOU! XOXO

kmkat

Happy birthday, Tom! Take it from one who knows, the 60s are a good age.

Chloe

Happy belated birthday, Tom! All kinds of things happened for us in our 60s. In many ways, the best is yet to come.

Mary

Happy Birthday (one day late), Tom! Y'all are on a similar time table, Kym - Marc and I celebrated our 40th birthdays together this past year ... and he turns 60 in 2019! (he got the brown crocheted afghan for Christmas in 1980 ;-)

margene

You and Tom are made to be together! Hope your party and Tom's not-birthday were legendary! Here's to your EXTRAVAGANZA YEAR!

Vicki

Oh, how fabulous... ALL OF IT!!
Happy Birthday, Tom!!!
I hope the Solstice-Not-a-Birthday-Party was a BLAST!
xoxo

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