FOMO . . . or the Fear of Missing Out . . . can be a real drag on happiness and personal contentment.
I bet many of you have experienced FOMO. It's that feeling that sneaks up on us . . . when we're really quite happy with whatever we're doing. But then . . . Someone Else is doing Something Else that sounds Even Better. Or More Exciting. Something, maybe, we SHOULD be doing. It's not . . . Inspiration. It's darker. (Because we're often inspired by others, and that's a fine thing.) FOMO is more . . . feeling bad about yourself because you're NOT doing it. Y'know? There's quite a difference there.
FOMO at the holidays can contribute to stress and overwhelm and feelings of not doing things quite right. Last year, for example, I decided not to put up a traditional Christmas tree in my house. I was happy with my decision; relieved, in fact. But then . . . Everyone Else was putting up trees. And going on about their trees. And FOMO crept in. Just a little, and for a very short time. I started to think . . . maybe I SHOULD do a tree. In the end, though, I stuck with my decision. I ended up quite happy and content with my traditional Christmas tree-less season.
In an attempt to block FOMO - and especially at the holidays - I recommend giving yourself permission to celebrate YOUR way. To not let yourself be swayed by what Other People are doing. To let things go. To avoid the "shoulds."
This year, I created a permission slip for myself.
It's just a simple thing written on a Post-It note that I stuck on the December page of my calendar. A little reminder that I have already given myself permission to let go of things; a little reminder to myself NOT to succumb to FOMO.
I want to remain happy and content with the way I've decided to celebrate this year; for not doing things the way other people are doing them -- and for not placing guilt on my family or friends, either. My holiday, my way -- your holiday, your way.
It's time to take some of the overwhelm out of the holidays -- for all of us. Let's give ourselves permission . . . to be content with our decisions, whatever they may be.