Getting Through It . . .
(Busy) (Birth) Day

Always With Me

As I explained last week, I'm letting my "inner artist" come to the surface this year as I explore my creative self with Carla Sonheim and Lynn Whipple's online Spark class.  So far, I've had a lot of fun trying some new things . . . and letting myself go WAY out of my usual "box."

But it has been a little more challenging than I thought.  And not because of the art-making.

Right off the bat, I encountered inner resistance.

You can't draw.
These people are REAL artists.
Who do you think you are?
Put.The.Pencil.Down.

I like to think of myself as a fairly confident woman.  I pretty much do what I want, say what I think, and step boldly.  I don't like to think of myself as . . . someone who can't.  

When that Inner Critic whispers in my ear, it makes me feel like . . . Junior High.

So I decided to . . . go there . . . into the belly-of-the-beast.  I decided to explore this Inner Critic of mine and see just what all the fuss is about.

First, I decided to just draw it.

  Inner Critic

Turns out . . .

It's a She.
And she looks like a cardboard cut-out.

Next, I used words to describe her.

"My Inner Critic . . . is blonde and has blue eyes.  She looks perfect.  But she is Not Nice.  (She judges.)"

"She might look pretty, but it's only on the outside.  (Inside, she's rotten.)"

"Her hands are behind her back.  (So she can cross her fingers while she lies to your face.)"

"You might think she's your friend, but then, when you've made yourself vulnerable, she'll laugh behind your back and make you feel stupid for every trying.  Or trusting."

"So then, you start to doubt yourself.  And maybe . . . you even leave yourself and become cardboard.  (Just like her.)"

Aha!

Turns out I know just who my Inner Critic IS . . . and she goes right back to Junior High.

Discovering where this particular voice comes from helps me move forward.  

(In this case, drawing without judging myself so harshly.)

  Faces

This simple exercise has been quite cathartic for me, actually.  My Inner Critic will probably always live there, deep in my soul.  But I can deliver some counter punches of my own now!

And that feels really good.

 

 

 

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margene

Your inner critic does look like a mean girl!! Stay as far away from her as you can! I love the funny, happy faces you draw when you're not being judged. I love it when Carla says "keep your hand lose".

Carole

I think describing your inner critic must have been a really powerful experience. I'm wondering what mine looks like. I know what she says (you can't run, you're fat, why do you even bother exercising, you will never change) but I wonder if describing her and putting a face on her would help me to make her shut up.

Patty

Oh I do not like that girl up there! I try to keep mine at bay but she sneaks around here and there! (Nice drawing though!)

Marilyn

So I wonder if your Inner Critic is someone who you really knew in Junior High... Don't let her have the power over your creativity. Banish her back to Junior High!!

claudia

Good on you for bringing her to light and squashing her power.

Shirley

Every junior high had one (or more) of these girls. I know mine did. It's amazing how long she stays with us. Congratulations on bringing her out of the shadows and confronting her.

Jo

How did this beeatch get into my junior high school, then hang around for uears lurking to,get into your junior high? Your charactures are terrific!

Signed, the un-Beeatch

Mary

...just now catching up on the whole last week - and lurking through most of it because I feel bad about being tardy, but this one - whoa! that inner critic of yours is a work of art. (and likely a lot of bad things, too). So glad you were able to put her in her place...just by giving her a face. and yellow hair. and a pink dress. Although personally I think she'd look more like herself with a green face. and a black dress. (and then you'd get to use more crayons).

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