When I first read this week's Ten on Tuesday email, announcing the topic, my reaction was. . . well, let's just say . . . less than enthusiastic. Now, I'm not a Wedding-Scrooge or anything. . . but I haven't been to many weddings lately, and I just haven't been thinking about weddings. . . let alone what I love about them!
But I let the topic simmer for awhile. I started thinking about my own wedding . . . 30 years ago! It was a fairly low-key affair. Small. Church. Cake-and-champagne at my parent's house afterward. Things were simpler in 1981! Not such big productions when it came to weddings back then. Just the basics.
Eventually, I even got out my wedding photo album and took a little trip down Memory Lane. I warmed up to the topic. Here are Ten Things I Love About Weddings (inspired by my own):
1. Music - We had this song at our wedding:
I'm sure it's not a common song at weddings these days, but back in 1981, it was de rigueur. Last fall, Tom and I went to a wedding and there was a string quartet before the ceremony. So lovely!
2. Bridal Fashion - I love to see what the bride chooses to wear -- and how she dresses her wedding party. My own wedding? Oh-so-1981 and all coordinated and matchy-matchy! (I made all the bridesmaids dresses. Can you believe it?)
I love the newer trends where the bridesmaids don't all match. Several years ago, a bride I knew had all of her bridesmaids choose a navy blue dress they loved. Any style. Any length. Everyone looked great; everyone had a dress that suited them. It was perfect!
3. The groom's face - I'm such a sucker for romance, I just love to see the look on his face when the bride walks down the aisle.
4. Personal ceremonies - I love it when the bride and groom write their own vows or do something unique to make the ceremony their own. Tom and I wrote our own vows. At the time, it was still pretty "new" and "out there" to do that -- and we had to get permission from the minister. (We really pushed the boundaries there, in our little matchy-matchy outfits!)
5. Cake - I love wedding cake!
6. Shattering expectations - I like to see a wedding with personality! We had a Spiderman groom's cake at our reception (there's a story there. . . maybe someday. . . ). My grandmother nearly died of embarrassment, but it was pretty cool! I really do like to see couples doing something a little. . . unexpected. Whether it's dancing down the aisle, having a "Man of Honor" (sometimes, the bride's best friend is actually a guy...), or having a "groomswomen" --- I like to see couples doing weddings THEIR way.
7. Champagne - Wouldn't be a wedding without a little bubbly! (And maybe a keg . . . out in the garage. . .)
8. Clinking the glasses at the reception so the bride and groom have to kiss. I never heard of this until we moved to Michigan, so I don't know if it's a regional thing or not -- but it's a fun way to play with your place setting at sit-down dinner receptions.
9. Ritual and commitment. When it comes to making a lifetime commitment to each other, I think the ritual of ceremony (however defined), witnessed by friends and family, is the perfect setting.
10. Remembering. Whenever I'm at a wedding, I think back to my own special day. It always makes me smile! (Especially when I look at the photos!)
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